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7 Tips to Create More Intimacy with Your Partner

Paula Marie Paula Marie
7 minute read

Loving Couple

What is Intimacy?

Intimacy is an essential ingredient in any healthy relationship. It’s more than just physical intimacy; it’s the emotional connection and trust that are built up over time between two people who care deeply for each other. Having strong intimacy in your relationship can lead to greater closeness and better overall physical connection.

7 Tips to help you build intimacy and strengthen your bond

Some of the best tips for building intimacy that you can start doing today include:

  1. Spend Quality Time Together: One of the best ways to foster intimacy is by spending quality time together. This can be anything from going out on dates, taking walks, having dinner at home, or even just sitting quietly with each other without talking. This gives you a chance to really connect with each other—and that connection is essential for intimacy.

  2. Communicate Your Needs: Communication is key in any relationship, and it’s especially important when it comes to intimacy. Be honest and open with your partner about what you need or want from them in order to feel connected and loved. If something isn’t working for you, don’t be afraid to talk about it. This will help build trust and understanding between the two of you.

  3. Show Affection: Physical affection can go a long way toward creating intimacy; holding hands, hugging, kissing - these simple acts of physical intimacy can foster deep emotional connection as well.
  4. Laugh Together: Laughter has been shown to help couples feel more connected and intimate. So don’t be afraid to let loose and have a good time with your partner—it can really help you both bond on an emotional level.
  5. Find New Experiences Together: Doing something new together can help build intimacy, as it allows you to explore each other in different contexts. It could be anything from taking a dance class or learning a language to exploring a new city or going camping.
  6. Emotional Intimacy: Connecting on an emotional level is just as important as physical contact to create intimacy, and positive communication and feelings. Try new things in your relationship. I found a great game that increases communication. It is called the Best Self Help Game. Put away your phones, switch off the TV and use these prompts to shake (and maybe even spice) things up. These card games will give you laughs and discoveries to help you feel more connected to your partner. By utilizing these tips, you can foster intimacy in your relationship and build up the physical connection between you and your partner. Intimacy is essential for any healthy relationship so take some time now to focus on strengthening yours! This is a great way to build emotional intimacy and experience more intimacy.
  7. Spice up your sex life: Connect with physical affection to create sexual desire; affectionate touch and physical touch will increase feelings of emotional closeness and help to increase sexual desire. Try giving your partner a massage. You can purchase your own massage table using essential oils. Set up an area in your home or bedroom with candles and your table. You can also add heated massage stones ; these stones feel so good! Massage is a great way to connect and spend time together and create positive feelings. You may find that after a soothing massage, you are in the mood for sexual intercourse. Build on this to feel safe and increase your sexual activity. Another fun option is to include the Sizzle Date Night Kit packed with everything you need to add a little sizzle to your night! 

The Sex Toolbox

The sex toolbox is not a box of sex tools, even though it sounds like it. It is a belief system and a time management system that makes time for sex and intimacy with your partner. It is a powerful way to view this area of your relationship, and it works!

Include and schedule sex and intimacy at least 2 times per week. This may not sound romantic, but in the busyness of life, we have to schedule time for sex and intimacy. If not, it most likely won't happen. In my book I share the secrets used in the sex toolbox in order to have more intimacy we have to make sex and intimacy a priority. 

Health Benefits

There are many benefits to physical touch and intimacy, including improved mental health, a better sense of well-being, reduced stress, lower blood pressure, and overall happiness in life. Include a luxury spa kit to increase your physical connection. Light a candle, add a bath balm and take a bath together.

A Fulfilling Relationship

If you are in a long-term relationship or a new relationship staying emotionally connected and connecting on a deeper level will add to relationship satisfaction and will help both people stay connected.

Where to start

The most important thing is to start! By being aware that you need improvement in your romantic relationship and sexual intimacy, you are already on the path to improvement. The single most important thing to do is schedule time for more intimacy and sex.

Talk to your partner and be honest about your sex life and that you desire more intimacy and a more fulfilling life. This requires vulnerability with the other person. The goal is to feel closer and feel safe in sharing your true feelings.

Professional help

If you try the things listed here and need more help, don't be afraid to engage a professional sex therapist that specializes in relationships. Asking friends and family members for relationship advice is most likely not the best source.

It is normal to have to Work on Intimacy and Sex in Relationships

Remember the feelings you had at the beginning of your relationship; remind yourself what you felt with your loved one; who was the one initiating sex? Did you feel passionate? Did you have your partner's undivided attention?

Life evolves, and so do our relationships; it is normal to have to work on these areas. Knowing this should help the communication between you and your partner.

The Effort is Worth It!

Finding your romantic partner was not easy; commit to improving the relationship and to, having more intimacy, and discarding negative feelings. Know that if you and your partner are committed to improving your sexual relationship and having more intimacy, it is possible. You can increase intimacy in your relationship. It is possible, and it is so worth it!

Celebrate your progress

Celebrate your progress as you move forward. If you feel emotionally intimate and more sexually intimate in your romantic relationships, you are most likely experiencing more intimacy, great job! '

Nurture your relationship and your sex life to keep that sexual connection for the duration of your relationship. There are so many health and mental health benefits. Life is short, and you deserve o be happy. Focusing on the areas of intimacy and sex will add to and improve your life.


Above all, enjoy the simple moments and the connection with your partner and significant other!

Take away the pressure and just enjoy each other; if sex isn't possible, focus on intimacy and physical touch, and honest and intellectual communication. Plan and schedule time together, laugh and have fun.

Paula Marie is a published author, blogger, successful realtor, and speaker. Paula's mission is to provide powerful tools for managing work/life balance and creating techniques for extraordinary personal growth and development!

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